FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Our divorce coaching sessions are Bible-based. I help Christians navigate their way through divorce and come out better on the other side by connecting deeper with their faith. The best way to overcome the emotional, practical, and financial challenges that accompany a divorce is to turn to God. Your faith will help you heal. 

While we honor the sanctity of marriage, we recognize that many individuals going through a divorce may not have a choice; whether its because their spouse filed, they are in an abusive situation, or for some other reason. 

When some people discover their marriage is over they drown themselves in self-deprecating thoughts and copious amounts of Chardonnay. The adrenaline running through their veins and the pit in the inside of their stomach becomes unmanageable. They become enveloped in this cycle of guilt and fear until they are paralyzed in indecision. That inability to take a stance often leads to more things falling apart. There is a solution. Turn to a divorce coach who can help you use the Word of God to turn your life around. 

During a divorce, it is easy to lose our sense of purpose. We have defined ourselves in relation to our significant other for so long that it becomes difficult to know who we are.

God uses everything for our good. He allows things to happen that we don’t understand. We can remain at peace knowing that with time we will see how it all works out for his Divine Plan and Purpose for our lives.

I can help you use your faith to guide your decisions and provide you with mercy, peace, and hope you need to forward. We can explore how the Bible deals with love, tragedy, divorce, and sin. We can rebuild your life by turning to Biblical passages and making sure that you are following God's path that he specifically designed for you. Your weaknesses will become your strengths and peace will wash over you. 

Everyone is at a different place in their spiritual journey and I am able to incorporate spirituality as much or as little into our sessions as you are comfortable with. For those who prefer a faith-based approach, they often refer to their divorce coach as their guardian angel protecting them from what they cannot see and guiding them in the right direction. 

As a Christian, I believe it’s imperative to meet the needs of those who I see are hurting. The Lord blessed me with the gift of being able to give people hope and wisdom. He put me in the driver's seat of hundreds of divorces. I know where most people go wrong and what they can do differently. 

Most importantly, I can give them peace at what might be the most difficult time in their life. This is a gift that I feel compelled to share and which I find significantly more rewarding than any win in Court. As a divorce attorney, I help people win the battle. As a Christian divorce coach, I help people win the war. 

You can hire a divorce coach at any stage of the divorce process:  

Before Filing for Divorce – A divorce coach can help you understand what the divorce process looks like so that you can explore “what if” scenarios. Is divorce the right decision for you? Why do you want to get divorced? Will the divorce provide you with the outcome you are looking for? A divorce coach can help you discern whether divorce is the right option, and if you decide to move forward with the divorce process, your coach can help match you with skilled professionals. Divorce is not one size fits all. 

During Your Divorce Case – Your coach can give you the time and attention you need, whereas your divorce attorney may not have the energy, ability, or desire to work with you on such a personal level. Your divorce coach is there to give you the information that you need to make decisions that may be more personal than legal in nature. 

After Your Divorce – Those going through a divorce often lose themselves and struggle with their identities. They may have been a wife or husband for so long that they no longer know who they are or who they want to become outside of that other person. After leaving a toxic relationship, you need to find and rebuild yourself. A divorce coach can help you define and become who it is you want to be. They can also help you more effectively co-parent with your former spouse. This is especially true if you are dealing with a narcissist. 

No. While I am a licensed and practicing attorney, I will not coach and represent the same client at the same time.  I can help put you in touch with a divorce attorney who is best suited to your needs and desired outcome.  

If you wish to retain me as your divorce attorney, visit the Sarantakis Law Group, Ltd. website. 

Everyone has the right to represent themselves, but it is not a wise way to proceed. Your divorce attorney will provide you with a significant value in helping you navigate the legal process. You should ideally use a divorce attorney and a divorce coach together to achieve the best possible outcome in your divorce. You work with the coach to explore your goals and you can then instruct your divorce attorney to proceed accordingly. Your divorce coach can ensure the steps being taken are designed to help you best attain the desired outcome and keep the costs of legal fees down. 

Not in my capacity as a divorce coach. If you wish to retain my services as a lawyer, visit www.sarantakislaw.com. 

If you are not sure whether you would prefer to work with me as a lawyer or a divorce coach, click here to contact me and we’ll set up a time to discuss which would be the best fit given your specific circumstances. 

Friends are a critical part of well-being. It is important to keep them close when making a major life transition. However, your friends may not be the best situated to walk you through the divorce process for a few reasons. First and foremost, they are biased. They are your friend. They see things through the lens you have painted for them and they may not be candid enough to share what areas you need to work on or to respectively disagree with you. Plus, unlike your coach, your friends have not experienced hundreds of divorces. Lastly, after a certain point, your friends are not going to want to talk about your breakup. You may find yourself going deeper down the rabbit hole venting and your friends will be worn out and frustrated trying to help you in an area they are not well versed in. 

Sadly most friends in trying to empathize will leave you feeling more dejected rather than inspired. It is important to compartmentalize your life so that you use your lawyer for the courtroom, your therapist for mental health, your divorce coach for life planning, and your friends for levity and fun.  

As a divorce coach, I am a consultant and not a therapist. I will not delve deep into your past issues or help you examine why your feelings exist. While I will necessarily have to learn about your past to help you frame your future goals, I cannot diagnose or treat any mental health issues. I am there to help you successfully move forward and rebuild your life by using my insight as a practicing attorney who has been through the divorce process countless times.  I am a divorce recovery mentor making sure that your actions are consistent with your goals, helping you design your future, and keeping you motivated and accountable in the process.

It is an emerging practice but growing exponentially. Those who use a divorce coach report high levels of satisfaction. Individuals are increasingly using divorce coaches before, during, and after the divorce process. We will likely continue to see the increase of divorce coaches in the future.  

No. My job is to help you move forward as a strong individual. If you want to work on your relationship, you should see a counselor for couple’s therapy. If you want to work amicably with your spouse in a divorce, you should pursue mediation or a collaborative divorce. I can help you better understand these options and put you in touch with the professionals you need. 

I also feel that this can be counter-productive. In many of the coaching relationships, I am helping people find their own voice after being lost in a relationship. By bringing the other person into the sessions we are minimizing the importance of creating strength and independence. A divorce coach relationship is much stronger and candid if the coach's loyalty is only to one party. 

Those who want to better understand the divorce process and keep costs down. Divorce is a holistic experience that impacts all facets of your life. Coaching is for those who are ready to take control and accountability for their future. 

Everyone can benefit from having focused long-term goals and a person on their side to help keep them encouraged and accountable. Those going through a divorce especially need a guru on their team to help them maneuver complicated and emotionally charged issues with a sense of rationality. 

My clients are a mix of men and women, young and old, stay-at-home parents and executives. All of us can use guidance during a time of transition. 

I have found that coaching work is in high demand during the pandemic because clients are feeling isolated, lost, and unsure of what the future looks like. 

Absolutely. No matter what the legal form of your relationship was, I’m here to help you figure out how to move forward.  I offer both divorce and life coaching.